I agree very much with this quote. As a leader, either formal or informal, you are there to help your people develop themselves. One of the many tools available for this is the model for situational leadership by Kenneth Blanchard and Paul Hersey. Whenever I feel I am not connecting properly with a group or a person I check a couple of things. One of these things is the model for situational leadership. It looks like the picture below.
On the horizontal axis is directive and task oriented behavior. The more you move up this axis the more task oriented and directive you become. The vertical axis is about relationship oriented and supportive behavior. The more you move along the axis the more supportive your behavior becomes.
As you can see from the picture there are four basic styles. The right style to use depends on the situation. These are the four quadrants:
It is easy to keep using the same style for a person in each situation. But this is not effective. Someone may be ready for delegating in one task, but may need selling in another task. People's skills, self esteem and motivations vary in each situation. This is why I check this model whenever I feel my coaching is not making as big of an impact as I would like it to make. This model can also helps you choose the right style in kata coaching.